Today I met with a high school friend I haven’t seen in over 6 months. She was in different parts of the country and so was I, and the first time our free time overlapped was today in our hometown. We talked about so many things, so many worries and ideas and anxieties and excitements. And it was not hard at all to be comfortable again with her. Nothing was hard to talk about, nothing was awkward to talk about. We were still finishing sentences and both of us still understood each other even when our thoughts weren’t well articulated.
Some friends you have are going to be like that. No matter how long you haven’t talked or seen each other, it’s very easy to hang out with no trouble. And throughout the year (in our case) we only called each other a few times every other month, simply because we were busy in college. And we both understood that.
It’s ok to have friends that you talk to more obviously, but sometimes you have to think about how much upkeep a friendship needs. Me and her were together at school and studied together constantly since late middle school, so now it’s ok for us to go a time without speaking. In the beginning of a friendship (or any relationship really) you have to set a solid foundation. At the same time, you have to understand that not all friends are forever, especially high school ones. She is one of many friends I had through school and track, and now she’s one of a few I am still close with. Which is fine. People move on and your friends will change. Plus, in a time where everyone moves off for college, it’s only natural.
So cherish your friends and enjoy their company, but don’t be afraid to reach out and make new ones.